The Meet Your Future matchmaking process combines executive recruiting methodologies and sophisticated search algorithms with matchmaking intuition to create a holistic approach to each search.


1. Intake

During the Intake process, our matchmaking experts conduct in-person Client assessments and interviews to ascertain what type of partner and relationship dynamic will be most compatible for you. We learn from your personal history; your preferences, deal-breakers, what your relationships patterns are, as well as what a healthy, happy relationship looks like for you. We get to know each individual on a very personal level.

2. Benchmarks

We develop Client approved Benchmarks for Success, which outline the Client’s specific search criteria. The Benchmark phase explores over 110 key personal, professional, and social indicators desired in a partner. The purpose of this phase is to focus the scope of the search without constraining it. As relationship experts, Selective Search Matchmakers are trained to identify the potential compatibility of a couple beyond the obvious indicators.

3. Screening

Selective Search Matchmakers and Affiliate relations experts conduct personal interviews to screen each match. During screening, Affiliates undergo the same comprehensive assessment as our Clients, and are only selected if they have maximum compatibility. This screening process also allows Matchmakers to evaluate factors like personality, values, emotional availability, body language, and physical appearance that would be lost in an online experience. This screening process is customized for each Client, and will include necessary inquiries to ascertain important information relevant to the Client’s search.

4. Presentation

The Matchmaker puts together a comprehensive presentation of Affiliate information for the Client. The presentation details pertinent facts about the Affiliate, along with recent photos, physical observations and additional notes from our Matchmakers. With this knowledge, the Client can make an informed decision whether to pursue the match, ask additional follow up questions, or continue the search.

5. Selection

This is perhaps the most exciting phase, when Client and Affiliate meet in person. A date provides a venue for each individual to develop a comprehensive idea of chemistry, personality, and lifestyle, as well as gauge physical attraction. The Client and Affiliate are introduced for a date. We only introduce our Clients to “must-meet” candidates who we believe have the greatest compatibility.

6. Evaluation

After the date, both the Client and the Affiliate independently consult with their Selective Search Matchmaker. The Matchmaker consults both individuals confidentially, as an objective third party. They encourage each party to discuss how the date went, and asks how they would like to proceed. This phase is especially helpful for both the Client and the Affiliate. As an objective third party, the Matchmaker adds value in developing the right relationships, and identifying red flags in new relationships. Frequently, Clients and Affiliates learn a lot about each other and themselves during this phase.